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A Genuine Life Coaching Professional

I am a life-long resident of Rochester, NY and I started creating my life coaching business from a sincere desire to want to help people empower themselves. My own life and background story are what finally led me to work so hard in becoming an entrepreneur and building this coaching enterprise. To fully explain who I am and why I chose to become a life coach, I need to begin by going back to the early part of my life and the relationship with my mother.

​When I was just a young child, I developed pneumonia and while having x-rays, doctors found cysts on my lungs. I was admitted to the hospital and eventually underwent surgery. Throughout this process, I had other health conditions that came about that eventually gave way to a liver disease. Fortunately for me, after many years in and out of hospital care, I was able to heal and fully regain my health. I believe that because of my own medical issues early on, and the fact that my mother was a young single parent working hard to raise my older brother and me all by herself, I have always felt this need to simply be an independent individual.

​Fast forward several years and my mother remarried and for the most part, I had a decent suburban education and upbringing, although I never got along with my stepfather. My real father was completely absent from my and my older brother's life as well. As time went on my stepfather became increasingly arrogant, controlling, and abusive, mentally, and emotionally to me, my older brother, and my mother. I have always been a very gutsy and many times brutal

truth-teller when faced with relentless inequality and injustice, so I became the defender of the three of us from my stepfather’s constant mistreatment, until things finally came to a head and I had had enough! I left home before I even finished high school. Among one of the most disappointing aspects of stepping out on my own too soon was that I was a great student and always got high marks. After I left home, I did; however, end up getting my diploma and shortly after, found my way into administrative employment. I worked in this field for fifteen years and even though I was a hardworking employee and made many friends, this line of work just did not fulfill me. I never had the desire to follow the traditional path of getting a good paying job, marrying, and having children, so working in a corporate-style capacity never offered me a chance to truly be myself. I did not fully realize all of this on a conscious level and like many others, I was simply going through the motions in my life, until the day my mother found out that she had a rare form of breast cancer. This was a huge wake-up call! My mother was only 48 years old and I was just 30, at the time. We were so close, and she was everything to me! My mother was my mentor, my best friend, and my inspiration! At that time, my mother had left her unfulfilling marriage, had purchased her own house for the first time in her life, and was pursuing her own dreams of becoming an actress by working in community theater, while continuing her full-time employment. My mother’s family and upbringing were extremely dysfunctional and yet, my mother was an incredibly intelligent, resourceful, hardworking, level-headed, strong, independent, down-to-earth, sincere, honest, loving, and passionate woman her whole life, even though she never gave herself the full credit for any of it! It was so heart wrenching to see my mother go through what she did with this disease. As difficult as it all was, just as my mom had given me her unconditional love and support throughout my health battles early on and for my entire upbringing, I gave back to her my full love and support through her cancer battle, but unfortunately, after about a year and a half, my mother lost that fight.

​​Even though within myself I thought I was handling it all, after my mother died, I went into a deep depression and eventually ended up quitting my job, losing everything, including most of my friends and family. Through my grief, my thought process was that I just wanted to completely clean my slate and start over again. I was hoping to build some type of business in honor of my mother, all toward helping others. My biggest problem was that I did not realize that I myself still needed help to not only start a business, but also more importantly, to regain my mental and emotional health. Instead of locating people that could guide me in the right direction, I found myself unknowingly falling into a crowd of individuals that basically were beyond lost themselves. From there I ultimately ended up in a very isolating, controlling, and abusive relationship for eight long years. During this time, I did everything I could to pull myself out. I became a gypsy, moving in with family, friends, and even acquaintances, desperately hoping to free myself. This became an unfortunate and repetitious cycle where I would end up having to go back to my dysfunctional relationship, due to the difficulties of feeling both a burden, and at the same time used, by those that wanted to help me, but also needed help with their own struggles. I think the biggest problem was that no one in my circle of people knew exactly what I was going through or how to help me get out of it, none-the-less build a business, including not knowing my own self of what I needed to do! I thought my life was over! I suffered tremendously from the physical, mental, and emotional abuse! I felt betrayed and was shocked by the lack of support from the closest members of my family and even the local law enforcement and community groups geared toward helping battered women. Everything led to nothing but this constant judgement and shame put on me from those that had the ability to help to lift me back up, but instead chose to let me remain stuck in this continuous thought pattern of guilt, despair, and humiliation, that persistently plagued me from beating my own self up over the fact that I had failed! Regardless of wanting out of this relationship because of the abuse, I still continued to try and help my boyfriend with his issues and addictions simply because that was my caring and loving nature. Needless to say, I learned the hard way that unless people are willing to help themselves, no one else can do it for them...and that included helping MY OWN SELF! From my own vulnerability at that time in my life, and from being overwhelmed by trying to help him and also free myself, I ended up getting dragged so low that at one point, I was even homeless with this man! Unbelievably, as insane as this all was for me, I kept my head on straight, my eyes wide open, and my wits about me, and I grew more courageous and independent! I really did! I learned a lot! The bottom line is that in developing from within, I raised my self-awareness to find understanding and forgiveness, and became my own best friend. From there, I finally lifted myself out of that relationship, to recreate who I was for the better! My mother had always said that I was a true extension of her, so I know how proud she would be that I overcame this pattern of relationships with co-dependent men, that both her and I found ourselves struggling to break free from!

​Long story short...from keeping my mother and her love lessons in my heart and embarking on an in-depth retrospect of myself, I discovered the incentive and drive to create this coaching business from my own personal passion and in honor of my mother. One of many ah-ha moments I had that strengthened my resolve to pursue this life coaching path was a comment my mother made to me one night just before her passing when she had said to me, “Giselle you have always been my biggest fan.” Yes, that was me for her, and that is me for everyone, because that has always been me! My bold, free-spirited, and altruistic nature, my life experiences, along with my mother’s unconditional love and support throughout my upbringing, have given me the knowledge, the strength, and the desire to want to assist others in their own journeys in life. I was born to be a life coach and have always been one, even though, I did not know what a life coach was until after my mom died and I found myself finally finding the courage to follow my heart. My life coaching experience and expertise evolved from first becoming a life coach for myself! My biggest obstacles throughout this journey have been my naivete, my depression, my limiting beliefs, my mistakes, my disconnect with my own authentic nature, and my overall lack of confidence in myself and I know that for many, these are also their biggest saboteurs as well. I now know that what I have set out to do, what I have been through and learned, and what I have created and continue to build is worthwhile, not only for me and my own self-development, but also for others who may be struggling, yet willing to find themselves and go after their own aspirations. This is who I am, what I am about, and what I have always inherently done and want to continue to do. Empower others to find their own individuality and build lives that fulfill them. It has been over twenty years now since my mother has been gone and even though I am no longer a young woman, I am still to this day, young in my heart, and my mother’s daughter, as well as my own woman now.

This life coaching endeavor has offered me the ability to become a creative entrepreneur. Everything I have done this far with my coaching business, I have done all by myself. Through the years, including during my most tumultuous times, I still found the grit and determination to hang onto whatever amount of in-dependency I could, so I took some college courses in psychology, business/entrepreneurship, and writing. Although, I never got a full college degree; I have poured my heart and soul into this enterprise and I actually started this venture by becoming a self-employed, professional cleaner/organizer, while continuing to cultivate my coaching skills. It has taken me many years to build this business because it has evolved through my gradual understanding of myself, other people, and life in general. I wrote the book, ‘A Complete Guide to Me, Myself, and I’ and created the corresponding course with those in mind who may struggle with their own ability to be their own individuals but still want to break out and build their lives according to their own designs.

​​For those that are ready to find themselves and recreate their lives, I want you to know that all of my programs are devised to offer you information, tools, and support that you need to be able to lead yourself forward. My coaching work lends a supportive and solid foundation for you to work from toward your own pursuits, both personally and professionally. From this self-empowering perspective, you will uncover your true purpose and most importantly realize that you can, Take Charge of Your Life…It all Starts with Yourself!

Wishing you all the best...

​​Yours Truly,

​​​Giselle Buonomo

Self-Development Coach & Confidant

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Giselle Buonomo

Self-Development Coach & Confidant

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